Leave Cards With Final Messages For People At Your Funeral Service

One of the goals that you have while planning your own funeral is to make the service as special as possible to those in attendance. While a lot of the focus at the service will understandably be on your immediate family member, it's always important to remember that others in attendance will also be in deep grief. One way to support them, even though you won't be present, is to leave cards for several key individuals. If you feel well enough to do so, writing a short message on an index card for certain people can be advantageous for several reasons. Here are some tips for approaching this idea.

Write To Certain People

While it might be admirable to try to write a short message to everyone whom you anticipate will be present at your funeral, this may be a challenging task. A potentially better idea is to target certain people — perhaps those with whom you've had a difficult relationship or those who could benefit from your words at this difficult time. Don't worry about missing certain people. Your family members can keep your notes and distribute them to the recipients as they arrive at the funeral home for the service or pass through the visitation line — those to whom you haven't written won't even need to know.

Consider These Ideas

A final message card can contain a variety of sentiments, depending on your relationship with the recipient. Perhaps you somehow wronged an individual and never felt comfortable with apologizing verbally. You may notice that you feel some stress lift when you write a short message of apology for this individual, and you can find comfort in knowing that he or she will cherish your words. Maybe you have a life lesson that you wish to share with someone, and you feel that it will carry more impact in the written form. These are ideal ways to approach these messages.

Add A Personal Touch

One of the keys to this idea is to make each message as personal as you can. You'll be doing that by tailoring your words to the recipients, but there are also other ideas for you to consider. For example, it's ideal to write each of your short messages by hand. Doing so is more personal than typing them out, and a handwritten note that someone receives after you have passed away will be a highly cherished item.

For more information, contact a company like Shepherd Funeral Home today.